Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur
Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur
The podcast for high-achieving women who have lost themselves inside the life they built.
You have achieved things most people only dream of.
And somewhere along the way, you stopped recognising yourself in any of it. Not because something went wrong. Because you outgrew the version of you that started.
Maybe it was a redundancy. A career that ended. A role you walked away from. A life that no longer fits. Or the quiet realisation, in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday, that you don't know who you are anymore.
Starting Over, Being You is the weekly podcast for women who have done all the work: the therapy, the coaching, the mindset, the books and are still stuck. Not because they lack insight. Because the version of them that built the last chapter cannot author the next one.
In a world being reshaped by AI, economic disruption, and the collapse of every career path that used to feel certain, the one thing that cannot be automated, outsourced, or made redundant is you, the specific, irreplaceable way you operate, feel, think, lead, and make decisions. But only if you know who you are.
Each week, Dr. Amen Kaur draws on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and human behaviour to answer the question underneath every other question: Who am I now, and what do I build from here?
This is not personal development. This is identity work. It is precise, evidence-based, and built for the woman intelligent enough to know that becoming yourself requires more than a new strategy. It requires a new relationship with yourself and with the five parts of you that were never taught to work together.
If you are navigating a career transition, a layoff, a life that no longer fits, or the quiet knowing that successful and alive are not the same thing, this show was made for you.
Because the woman you are becoming is not someone new. She is who you were before you learned to perform. This podcast is how you come home to her.
New episodes every week.
Hosted by Dr. Amen Kaur scientist, therapist, and former senior corporate partner, whose work sits at the intersection of identity, human behaviour, and what it takes to rebuild from the inside out. Founder of the Human Intelligence Framework and the BEYOND programme for women in the in-between.
Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five-part method Dr. Amen Kaur uses with women who have outgrown the version of themselves that got them here, so they can lead, decide, and build from a self that is actually theirs.
Watch free: amenkaur.com/masterclass
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Topics covered: lost myself, redundancy recovery, identity after job loss, starting over after 40, high-achieving women burnout, career transition women, reinvention vs becoming, nervous system and identity, career identity crisis, women and AI career change, the in-between, human intelligence framework, BEYOND podcast.
Educational content only. Not a substitute for professional, therapeutic, medical or financial advice.
Fan Mail
this has helped tremendously thank you!!!
These episodes are all so encouraging and helpful! And the way you explain the process of recognizing and being aware of our mindset is so clear and astute. Thank you again so much. I've been listening for a long time and growing stronger all the time. I don't think I could have healed this much without your wise and kind words.
Your good work with the podcast has saved me from many anxious moments. It has calmed my spirit so many times. I've been healing from a terribly abusive relationship that I finally ended and have come such a long way. I just want to say how grateful I am. You have helped me tremendously.
All of your podcast episodes are brilliant. Absolutely so enlightening --but I have to say that this past week's was even more amazing than usual. It was the episode saying that we don't need a guru! As we say in the USA about a great hit in baseball you "knocked it out of the park!" with that podcast! 😆Thank you so much.
thank you for posting weekly! I look forward to the podcasts very much. They are always so helpful.
I have met with Amen once and she’s amazing. Thank you! Do you have a resource I can share with my mother to help her understand what happened to me for the 20 years I was under complete control and brainwash of my narcissistic husband? And why I wasn’t myself? And why I couldn’t actually stand up to him and this until I “woke up” from this? She doesn’t understand. I told her there is no way for anyone to understand unless they have lived it. If you have something for us to share our families to understand, I would so much appreciate it! Joyce
thank you for such a brilliant podcast.. it has really helped
Thank you so much for all the wonderful encouraging information. You've helped me heal and gain confidence and strength back. I almost feel like myself again after only 6 months away from my abusive spouse. Thank you.
Good morning, I know that I need to talk to a therapist, but I live in a small area and its hard to find a good therapist and even harder to find one that has had experience with narcissistic or toxic abuse. I am reaching out to see if you can help me. I am listening to your January 2nd episode and it's like you are talking about how I feel. I am determined to get past this in 2025. In advance I want to thank you for what you do.
Hello Dr. Aman Kaur! I've been a listener (Vancouver, Canada) for the past year while going through a very difficult end to a toxic relationship ship with a narcissistic abuser. I've been in this awful cycle for too long. The holidays were incredibly challenging for me. The stillness and being alone forced me to feel the feels which was actually a blessing in disguise. Your podcasts have helped lift me up and continue in my resolve more than you know. I feel like I used to be this beautiful, smart, vibrant, professional woman and I lost myself entirely and I feel like I'm finally coming back to life! Even when I can talk to one friend about my true feelings and I have a therapist, I still need your insight and expertise to play in my ear buds on my walk to and from yoga or when I wake up at 5am and sip my coffee and face my day ahead or whenever I feel weak. I just have to remember to do that rather than get dragged back into the nonsense. You have a wonderful gift and I thank you so much for your support from afar. ❤️
love your podcast. I’m learning so much about myself and others. Thank you.
I am ready to heal my brain from trauma & dealing with a narcissistic family member.
I thank you for these podcasts. I am seeing a wonderful lady who has broken free of an abusive relationship. It is helping me to understand her better, be patient with her.
I recently found your podcast and want to say thank you for doing it. I am finding it very helpful and appreciate both the neuroscience and the spirituality you include in your episodes. ❤️
Hi! I love your podcast, so much love thank you. Do you have any group classes. I can’t seem to find the resources page. Thank you.
Dr you have answered questions iv been asking myself for years & years ... & beautifully I could listen to you all day. ♥️
Dr Kaur I found you at perfect time . You have helped me more than ANY outside help iv ever had over 30 yrs. Anaxing lady I listen everyday since I found you ... & iv tried many drs ( speakers ) Can't thank you enough. you say everything Iv tried to ♥️♥️
I woke up in the night to your recent 'What if you're stronger....' podcast episode and it was like the voice of god speaking to me during the dark night of my soul after 24 years of narcissistic abuse perpetrated by my ex wife. I have podcasts playing all night long to keep me company. Thank you. You spoke to me. BW Rachel
I have just discovered your programs on your podcasts. I’m blown away! My life has been such a mess for decades and until recently I’ve had no idea the severity of my own situation. Hearing the truth is so hard but having the validation is now setting me free. Thank you so much!
one of the best toxic relationship podcasts I have ever heard
Hi, I just wanted to say thank you so much. I have been listening since leaving my narcissistic relationship and going total no contact since September 2023. I’ve done a lot of self healing and I’m a firm believer in the “Let them” approach. I have been called all sorts of things and obviously been blamed for everything that went wrong. This particular episode has really struck a chord with me and helped me massively. Thank you!
this was such an important episode. Thank you so much for sharing. Rumination just does keep you in a deep hole… Working out how to get out is also rumination…I’m Still living in the same home so finding it hard to get out of rumination as I need a solution of how to live separately… Patience and becoming who I am. My true self - and not being ashamed of that self. Thank you 🙏🏻
Good morning! I'm from Michigan and have dealt with a childhood of physical and verbal abuse. In the last 3.5 years, now at age 47, I've been on a huge journey of healing and figuring out why I am the way I am. I happened to be blessed by your podcast popping in my "you might be interested in" section. You have been such a delight, help and truly a blessing to me and my healing. I've also shared your podcast with my friend who does group devotional meetings in our local jail. Have a blessed magnificent day!! And thanks again for your journey and healing and sharing it with all of us 💗🦋🐢